The other day, I was watching my toddler grandson with his dog. Toddlers naturally tumble when they get ahead of themselves, as do dogs with short legs. As if in sync, my grandson and his dog began to run, tumble, get up and go again. They even have their own [...]
In Part 2, we learned that if our goal is to rid ourselves of anxiety, it will likely only increase the frequency, intensity, and duration of anxiety over time. How can this be? Expansion not subtraction Part of the answer lies in where Acceptance and Commitment Therapy has its philosophical [...]
In part 1, we learned how anxiety is like struggling in quicksand. The more we struggle with it, the more we are caught in its sinking trap. My own personal struggle with anxiety consistently intensified from 3rd grade, when my classmates noticed my sweaty armpits, all the way into adulthood. [...]
Likely, when we are caught up in the “I’m not good enough” story, we behave in ways that are self-destructive at worst and unworkable at best. Both lead us away from behaving the way we would like to deep down in our hearts.
As I practice acceptance skills through ACT, I can make room for the difficult feelings, thoughts and stories that present themselves in my life periodically. This doesn’t mean I enjoy having painful thoughts and feelings, it means I aim to drop the struggle with them more often than I have in the past.
Acceptance is an often misunderstood word. Many people think acceptance means agreeing or complying with, giving into or even liking what is troubling them. Therefore, most people reject the idea of accepting that someone they love has died, something unfair has happened to them or that an injury has [...]
You are exhausted. You’re scrolling through all of these listings unsure of how to choose a therapist, wondering if it will even help you or someone you love. You might be telling yourself you are weak, lazy or broken because you keep falling into the same hole. I hear [...]
As a psychotherapist in private practice, clients regularly ask, “What is wrong with me? Why can’t I stop doing X, start doing Y or figure out Z?” People I meet have often spent years beating themselves up, reading self-help books to get unstuck and telling themselves they are a [...]