The other day, I was watching my toddler grandson with his dog. Toddlers naturally tumble when they get ahead of themselves, as do dogs with short legs. As if in sync, my grandson and his dog began to run, tumble, get up and go again. They even have their own [...]
In Part 2, we learned that if our goal is to rid ourselves of anxiety, it will likely only increase the frequency, intensity, and duration of anxiety over time. How can this be? Expansion not subtraction Part of the answer lies in where Acceptance and Commitment Therapy has its philosophical [...]
In part 1, we learned how anxiety is like struggling in quicksand. The more we struggle with it, the more we are caught in its sinking trap. My own personal struggle with anxiety consistently intensified from 3rd grade, when my classmates noticed my sweaty armpits, all the way into adulthood. [...]
How To Drop the Struggle with Anxiety Anxiety and I have been well-acquainted for awhile. After years of struggling, learning, and training on how to treat anxiety, I still recognize it showing up in my life regularly. I personally struggle to this day with how much I dislike anxious, fearful [...]
Likely, when we are caught up in the “I’m not good enough” story, we behave in ways that are self-destructive at worst and unworkable at best. Both lead us away from behaving the way we would like to deep down in our hearts.
We all want to feel better and have probably tried to come up with lots of ways to change our thoughts and feelings. If you have struggled with anxiety or depression, you may have also seen a therapist, read a book or watched videos online to feel better. As [...]
As I practice acceptance skills through ACT, I can make room for the difficult feelings, thoughts and stories that present themselves in my life periodically. This doesn’t mean I enjoy having painful thoughts and feelings, it means I aim to drop the struggle with them more often than I have in the past.
Acceptance is an often misunderstood word. Many people think acceptance means agreeing or complying with, giving into or even liking what is troubling them. Therefore, most people reject the idea of accepting that someone they love has died, something unfair has happened to them or that an injury has [...]
Last week, I had the opportunity to attend a two-day training with Dr. Steven C. Hayes in Las Vegas, Nevada. When asked if he created Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), he responded, “thousands of people have helped develop ACT, I just lit the match.” A very humble response for [...]
You’ve probably heard about the incredible benefits of mindfulness or meditation. New research has shown how it produces lasting changes in attention, cognition and emotional regulation. But why practice mindfulness? What is meditation? And what are the differences between the two? Meditation is a formal, on-purpose practice that has [...]